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Featured Article – The Power of not giving a f**k
- The Power of not giving a f**k
I no longer worry about what others think about me. That sounds great, but it wasn’t easy to get to this point. I was brought up in a pretty nice environment. My parents were nice, my friends’ parents were nice. I turned out pretty nice. We tried to avoid trouble. We worried about what other people thought about us. We avoided conflict where possible, at least until it was too late, and then someone had a blow up, and pretty soon we could all move past it and pretend that… Read more: The Power of not giving a f**k
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Solving Problems Early – Feather, Brick or Truck
Do you feel like you’re experiencing the same problem over and over again? Do you tell yourself that if you can just get past or through this one issue, and then everything will be ok. But if you haven’t changed anything, the problem will repeat itself, again and again. That's why solving problems early is so powerful. Psychologists have a fancy name for ignoring evidence. It’s called confirmation bias. It dates back to the 1960s. People put more weight on evidence that supports what they already believe. It’s even built into google – search up ‘are cats better than dogs’ …
Make the impossible, possible – visualisation
Do your beliefs hold you back? Do you tell yourself that some things are too hard – or impossible? Everything is impossible – until you know how to do it. These days most knowledge is a few clicks away. Making it possible is not about having an instruction manual – it is about actually doing it. That’s where our imagination and vision make all the difference. Being able to imagine yourself succeeding – really see and feel that brighter future – is what it’s all about. Then it’s just about following the instructions The power of visualisation A Harvard Medical …
What is good enough for me?
Lots of us worry about whether we are good enough, so we strive for perfection, yet almost all of the time, good enough will do. In our heads, we think this is about what other people think, but really, in our hearts, this is up to us. We’ve all heard of the 80/20 rule or Pareto Principle – 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort. That applies to pretty much everything. I actually think it is even more concentrated than that if you break down that top 20% and apply the rule again! Now you’re getting 64% …
Other peoples’ opinion of us is none of our business
Do you worry constantly about other peoples' opinion of you? Do you doubt yourself? Does that hold you back from doing this, trying these, or just being you want to be, who you are? In our heads, we think this is about what other people think, but really, in our hearts, this is about how we feel about ourselves A recent UK self-confidence survey revealed mind blowing statistics. Firstly for women: 85% don’t believe they are attractive, 2/3 are not confident in their job, 62% don’t believe they are intelligent, 56% don’t think they are liked by others. Then the …
7 ways to prevent work/life stress
Do you struggle with work life stress? Have you ever found it hard to leave your work stress at work? Does it impact your family, not just you? Lots of people talk about work life balance, but I believe a much better term is work life alignment – when your work and the rest of your life function together, supporting each other. The American Psychological Association reports that 61% of Americans report feeling stressed about work. This is a huge societal problem. We’ve all been there. Worries from a crap day at work leak into family life. You snap or …
Top Tip for Defeating Distraction
Have you ever found yourself at the end of the afternoon – you’ve been trying to get something done all afternoon, but you just can’t concentrate? This seems to happen to me too often. I’m pretty sure I’m not alone. Despite its benefits for relaxation and calm, meditation is the ultimate brain training for focus and performance Peak Mind n a new book Peak Mind by psychology professor Amisha Jha from the University of Miami, she shows how meditation protects our ability to concentrate even in the most stressful of situations – making us sharper, more focused and enables us …